Get out. Get out now...as soon as you possibly can.
If you value your relationship with your father, get out...now.
You see, we were raised by the same man. Well, almost. Take away the drawl, the swagger and the Botox and they are the same. In essence. In spirit. At heart.
According to my father's wishes, I stayed in his hellhole of a home until the age of 31. I was convinced I was being obedient and honoring him, per the Biblical mandate. How wrong I was!
By giving him an additional thirteen years, beyond the legal age of "adulthood" I was exposed to 50% more abuse and he ruined our relationship beyond repair. Now, my only choice is "No Contact" as your half-brother Kyle has chosen.
And Kyle is right and I am so proud of him.
Take a leaf from my book. Look what happened with Lindsie. At least she has the man she wanted, the man she loves. As you said, Savannah, your boyfriend treats you better than your father does. And that is why I married after a 2-day courtship and 13-day engagement. I had to marry quickly before my father could gather his wits to try to break me up from the love of my life. Basically, my father forced me into a "hasty" marriage...to a wonderful man who makes me so happy each and every day.
But Kyle took his pain out on his own body. Have you listened his song, "Shame On You"? Kyle understands your father...perfectly. He does NOT exaggerate.
You are such fine, upstanding, good...yes, good...young adults. And yet your father projects his own evil onto you. Neither of you are "whores." But he is, and he can't bear it. In my opinion, and after studying the topic for two years, he is a quintessential narcissist. Look it up.
So, I say again, for your own mental health...run.
In the interest of NOT bringing emotional baggage into your future marriages...run.
If you want to be able to bear any contact with your father in future...run.
Run, now. And your lives will go well. For you are smart, kind, good, respectful and loving. Yes, loving. For you love and respect your father despite all his abuses. Most children would hate and rebel, but you love and obey him. And that is more than he deserves.
I would be proud to call you my son and daughter.
You will do much better on your own than you will under his "fatherly guidance." Look deep into your wounded hurting hearts and you will find the truth there.